Family Family: A Novel by Laurie Frankel
My rating: 5 of 5 stars
“No one,” Fig giggled. “I’m just saying Mom’s mad now, but I still think calling Lewis was the right thing to do. Sometimes less is more, but not with family. With family, more is more.”
Laurie Frankel’s “This is How it Always Is” was my favorite book of the year when it came out and ever since then I’ve been an avid fan. I could not wait to get my hands on “Family Family” and not only did it not disappoint but I am confident it will be my favorite read of 2023 alongside one other novel. This story was incredibly beautiful.
“This is what parenting is, India. Solving impossible-to-solve problems while also experiencing deep crises of faith while also being kind of annoyed while also never getting enough rest. These problems only ever go away by changing into different equally impossible problems. This is how it always is for all parents, no matter how you came by your children.”
I could easily quote the entire book. I love the way Frankel writes. I love the parents she creates. I love the combination of vulnerability and strength they always display. I find myself wishing deeply that these were real people and in my life. I love them so.
“Normal parents who have their kids from birth so there’s no mystery, nothing about their children they don’t know or understand.” “In the entire history of time, India, throughout the wide vast universe, there has never been a parent for whom that is true.”
This is the story of a super-famous actress, India whose life starts unraveling as a result of some comments she makes about a movie she was recently in. The story goes back and forth between two timelines, the present day after things start unraveling and the past when India is in high school all the way to present day.
“You were five. Everything you did was gross. Then you’d cry because your fingers were cold. So I gave you a fork. Then you ate out all the strawberries and cried because it wasn’t strawberry ice cream anymore.” “What did you do?” “Opened a bottle of wine.” “About me?” “Waited for you to grow out of that phase and hoped the next would be more rational.”
This book is about adoption, parenting, siblings, parenting in all of its forms and of course it’s all about love. It’s about all the ways we can love our kids, all the ways we can love each other, all the ways we can create family and we can support and be there for each other.
“Not to,” her mother said. “With. Talk with them. Discuss what they’re scared about. Discuss what you’re scared about. Be honest with them. Tell them everything you can think of.” “Why?” “They’re family.” She could hear her mother’s shrug over the phone. “They’ve got a right to know.”
It is one of the most beautiful books I’ve read. It broke my heart open multiple times and I fell in love with these flawed and loving characters over and over again. I don’t think there’s any way you will not absolutely love this book.
Make sure to read the author’s note at the end, too, it made me love Frankel even more. Now I have to pray that she can write quickly because I can’t wait to read more of her stories.
with gratitude to netgalley and Henry Holt & Company for an advanced copy in exchange for an honest review
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