Placing Blame

I think there’s a skewed opinion of body image in the world.

Well, at least in most of the cultures in which I’ve lived.

Many women try to change their body structure to fit the range of what’s ‘desirable to a man’. Most of the women I’ve talked to who are struggling with their weight or self image seem to link it to being wanted. If I’m pretty, men will get attracted to me more, and then I can find someone to like me. It might sound convoluted and desperate to some people, but I’ve heard this concern multiple times.

Putting the issue of whether you need someone else in your life to feel good about yourself aside, the notion of getting thin to please men doesn’t really work, in my opinion.

From what I’ve experienced, the ones that judge women’s bodies are other women. Most men I’ve met are not really affected by weight as much as women think they are. Some like thinner, some like fuller but none of them notice the extra five pounds you gained last week. At least not the men who are worth having.

Women, however, size you up and down and can tell if the skirt you wore yesterday is a tiny bit tight, if you’re bloated from your period, if the shoes you’re wearing are scuffed. Women scrutinize other women. It’s as if they find you to be a constant threat and therefore need to find fault. Not only do they analyze you to bits, but then they call up your mutual friends and share.

Of course I’m generalizing. Of course it’s not true for every woman. Some women are wonderful and kind and caring and don’t spend any time feeling good about other women’s weaknesses. But, in my experience, women notice other women’s body structures and criticize them a lot more than men do.

Most of the women’s magazines give tips on losing weight and looking thin. They promote thinness simply by plastering their magazines with thin people. They don’t come out and tell you that it’s bad to be above a size 4 but they imply, coax and leave subtle hints.

In my opinion, many of today’s eating and self-image issues are caused by the women in our lives. The magazines, the movie stars, the family members, siblings, and many others.

So if we want to address these problems, I think we should really start looking within our gender.

Previously? Web People.