Rejected

I must admit, I’ve been rejected from many things before and for many
reasons, but I have yet to be rejected for being too young. A book club
here just rejected me because they said I was too young to join them. If
at 32, I am too young, I suppose I should take that as a compliment!



What’s amazing is how much rejection hurts, even being rejected from the
smallest things. Even when you know you have no hope of getting
accepted. I try out for things, just to encourage myself to get projects
completed. And then when I don’t get accepted or win, I feel so sad.
Sometimes I feel sad for days. Even though, mentally, I know there was
no chance or that it doesn’t mean anything, emotionally it’s not
possible to ignore the rejection.

The good thing is, it doesn’t seem to have stopped me from trying to
submit, however I don’t know if that’s the answer either. Why is it so
important to me that others accept my work? Why do I need an “official”
stamp of approval? Why can’t my work be enough for me? I think I really
need to think hard about the answers to these questions so that I know
what my motivations are. If all this is just to seek approval, I need to
find other forms of it. If it’s to stretch myself and give myself
deadlines, those are good reasons. The best thing about those reasons is
that they don’t depend on the outcome. By the time I submit my work, I
have already completed something and I have also stretched myself. Those
should be enough to feel good.

If I am going to submit my work and keep putting myself out there, I
think it’s important to keep that in mind.

Rejection is part of day to day life. We get rejected in small and big
ways regularly. Just like we get accepted in small and big ways. It’s
important to celebrate the acceptances and grow from the rejections
without taking them personally. I need to remind myself of this
regularly. I need to stop diminishing the good and exaggerating the bad.

I know I have this terrible personality flow where if someone thinks I
am great, I quickly stop respecting or looking up to that person. I
figure they must not know what they are talking about. And if someone
doesn’t think I am hot shit, why they must be totally right.

And you thought you were fucked up.

2 comments to Rejected

  • Yeah, I can relate to what you are talking about – rejection. Once you experience being rejected, you might think about what you did wrong or not do enough good job and it can keep going on. Being surrounded with loved ones, family and friends, I am fortunate to have them to remind me that I have so many gifts to share…so, keep trying to do something else…It is like to find niche after series of rejection, I guess. I am not sure if I am making any sense, so I will just leave at it. 🙂

  • Cheryl

    My late father commented once that in order to recognize ecstasy, we must suffer through the agony…of rejection. He was right! The problem is that not every opportunity that knocks on our door is right for us. But who are we to know that? Victims of rejection.

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