I am not a particularly big sports fan. Actually, I can go so far as
to say I am not a sports fan in any way. I get incredibly frustrated
watching football because I have a really hard time following the
actual ball since it’s so small compared to the players and the
field. Last time I watched basketball I must have been fourteen. I
have never ever watched hockey as far as I can remember. Golf is
boring to me in concept let alone on TV. The only game I might be
into is baseball and only in very rare cases. So it might make little
sense that Jake emailed me this article by an ESPN writer.
Until you realize that he’s “talking” with Malcolm Gladwell. Probably
my favorite non-fiction writer of all time. I find Gladwell’s writing
to be consistently thought-provoking. His topics are always
interesting to me. His writing is plain, unpretentious and flows
beautifully. An amazingly rare accomplishment for a non-fiction
writer in my albeit narrow experience. Despite the fact that most of
the sports talk completely went over my head, I found some real gems
in this article. Here are a few I wanted to share.
writing, I’m not sure I can answer that either, except to say that I
really love writing, in a totally uncomplicated way. When I was in
high school, I ran track and in the beginning I thought of training
as a kind of necessary evil on the way to racing. But then, the more
I ran, the more I realized that what I loved was running, and it
didn’t much matter to me whether it came in the training form or the
racing form. I feel the same way about writing. I’m happy writing
anywhere and under any circumstances and in fact I’m now to the point
where I’m suspicious of people who don’t love what they do in the
same way. I was watching golf, before Christmas, and the announcer
said of Phil Mickelson that the tournament was the first time he’d
picked up a golf club in five weeks. Assuming that’s true, isn’t that
profoundly weird? How can you be one of the top two or three golfers
of your generation and go five weeks without doing the thing you
love? Did Mickelson also not have sex with his wife for five weeks?
Did he give up chocolate for five weeks? Is this some weird golfer’s
version of Lent that I’m unaware of? They say that Wayne Gretzky, as
a 2-year-old, would cry when the Saturday night hockey game on TV was
over, because it seemed to him at that age unbearably sad that
something he loved so much had to come to end, and I’ve always
thought that was the simplest explanation for why Gretzky was
Gretzky. And surely it’s the explanation as well for why Mickelson
will never be Tiger Woods.
and a few lines down, Simmons replies with:
watching one of those 20/20-Dateline-type pieces about him once, and
he was adamant about remaining a family man, taking breaks from golf
and never letting the sport consume him … and I remember thinking
to myself, “Right now Tiger is watching this and thinking, ‘I got
him. Cross Phil off the list. This guy will never pass me.'” The
great ones aren’t just great, they enjoy what they’re doing —
I find this to be completely true. If you love what you do and do it
constantly, you are bound to master it eventually. And if you truly
love it, can you stop doing it, even for a moment? Many writers carry
little notebooks with them and take notes constantly. Photographers
never leave the house without at least one camera. Musicians practice
night and day. People are often surprised at the overnight success of
a now famous person, but in most cases there is a multi-year effort
behind the success. I can completely understand taking a break
from something to recharge and relax. However, if you want to be
really really fantastic at something, I think the trick is to love it
obsessively. Then, it consumes you.
That’s sort of why I constantly
have the breadth vs depth argument with myself. If you want to do
everything and are unwilling to choose one over the others, it’s
impossible for all your interests to consume you. You have a limited
amount of time and energy and you have to make choices. Thus, it
shall be that I am never going to get the opportunity to master
anything until I give up on some things.
Why don’t people work hard when it’s in their best interest to do so?
Why does Eddy Curry come to camp every year overweight?
The (short) answer is that it’s really risky to work hard, because
then if you fail you can no longer say that you failed because you
didn’t work hard. It’s a form of self-protection. I swear that’s why
Mickelson has that almost absurdly calm demeanor. If he loses, he can
always say: Well, I could have practiced more, and maybe next year I
will and I’ll win then. When Tiger loses, what does he tell himself?
He worked as hard as he possibly could. He prepared like no one else
in the game and he still lost. That has to be devastating, and
dealing with that kind of conclusion takes a very special and rare
kind of resilience. Most of the psychological research on this is
focused on why some kids don’t study for tests — which is a much
more serious version of the same problem. If you get drunk the night
before an exam instead of studying and you fail, then the problem is
that you got drunk. If you do study and you fail, the problem is that
you’re stupid — and stupid, for a student, is a death sentence. The
point is that it is far more psychologically dangerous and difficult
to prepare for a task than not to prepare. People think that Tiger is
tougher than Mickelson because he works harder. Wrong: Tiger is
tougher than Mickelson and because of that he works harder.
This is something I’ve often discussed with Jake since he hates
taking exams so much and makes sure not to study for them. I am never
sure if he’s genuinely having problems studying of he’s just not
trying hard enough because he’s scared that if he gives it all he has
and still fails, he’ll have to admit he couldn’t achieve despite
trying as hard as possible.
I work very hard not to regret my past. I tend to get hung up on the
past as is so I try regularly to make sure my decisions are as sound
as they can be at the time I make them. I also give the things I do
all I have. I want to be able to look back and say that there was
nothing more I could have done. I used every single ounce of ability,
power, and strength in my body and soul to make something happen. If,
then, it still doesn’t happen, it’s time to move on and realize it
wasn’t meant to be.
That’s not to say that I have followed my own
advice all the time. A few years ago, I applied to Stanford Business
School. My intention was to do a joint Education and Business degree
and to get accepted, you had to apply to the business school first. I
have always hated business school but I know Stanford is the bast and
I loved the idea of this particular program. I applied to it at the
same time I applied to Teach For America. I knew that if I got into
both I would choose TFA. Most people might think that’s stupid but
TFA was what I wanted to do at the time. I figured if I couldn’t get
in and could get in to Stanford, I’d study Education Policy and hope
to start some kind of education non-profit after I graduated. I knew
TFA would get me first-hand experience and that’s more useful than
any education in most cases. (and in the end it turned out to be invaluable).
I had taken my GMATs four and a half years before I applied and since
they are good for five years, I just used those scores. I asked for
recommendations from my boss and a co-worker. I really did work hard
on the essays. Overall, it’s not fair to say that I didn’t try but I
am sure I could have tried harder to perfect my application. I am not
sure if it was on purpose or sheer neglect. I knew the acceptance
rate was very low and chances were that I wouldn’t get in. And when I
didn’t get in, I kept telling myself I didn’t want to get in anyway.
I hadn’t even bothered to retake my GMATs. It was obvious that
Stanford wasn’t my first choice. Which is all bullshit. I didn’t get
in and that’s that. If I didn’t try to make my application as strong
as it could have been, that’s sheer stupidity on my part. Why waste
time writing essays, bothering to fill out an application, and taking
other people’s time to write recommendations if I wasn’t dying to get
in? I was completely retarded to not give it my best effort. And if
this was my best effort, I should admit that I wasn’t good enough to
get in. To not try my hardest just to have some excuse to use when I
don’t succeed is really setting myself up for failure. Life’s too
short to live like that.
psychologist at Columbia University named Dan Goldstein. He goes to a
class of American college students and asks them which city they
think is bigger — San Antonio or San Diego. The students are
divided. Then he goes to an equivalent class of German college
students and asks the same question. This time the class votes
overwhelmingly for San Diego. The right answer? San Diego. So the
Germans are smarter, at least on this question, than the American
kids. But that’s not because they know more about American geography.
It’s because they know less. They’ve never heard of San Antonio. But
they’ve heard of San Diego and using only that rule of thumb, they
figure San Diego must be bigger. The American students know way more.
They know all about San Antonio. They know it’s in Texas and that
Texas is booming. They know it has a pro basketball team, so it must
be a pretty big market. Some of them may have been in San Antonio and
taken forever to drive from one side of town to another — and that,
and a thousand other stray facts about Texas and San Antonio, have
the effect of muddling their judgment and preventing them from
getting the right answer.
This comment reminded me of The Wisdom of Crowds. Sometimes it’s hard be
objective when you know the subject too well. It’s hard to not make
assumptions and to not overcomplicate the situation. I guess the
trick is to know when you’re in that kind of situation and to seek
the help of people who are less involved for those particular situation.
All interesting points, all gathered from a sports article that I
wouldn’t have even seen had Jake not sent it to me. Shows you that an
interesting person like Gladwell is worth reading regardless of the
context.
I never knew you applied to Stanford Business School.
I feel like this applies to young men more than women. In high school and college, when being cool was life or death, “cool” essentially meant not caring. At least that’s how it seemed to me. Lots of my guy friends would always get drunk or stoned before taking tests. Or smoke a cigarette before a basketball game. Or pretend that some girl they were head over heels about meant nothing to them. I had always thought it was because there’s a societal mystique about the person with the natural ability (the A student who never studies or the star athlete who never trains), but I think you and Gladwell are right: lots of times we’re simply trying to make things tougher on ourselves … otherwise we have to admit that we simply failed.
i sure did, in 2002 or so.
men have their own pressures in society and women have their own. both are complicated and neither are fun. but i might agree with you that this particular one is male. but i’d take it anyday over a woman having to act stupid because she’s a woman. 🙂
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