Since Jake and I moved to San Diego a year and a half ago, we haven’t made a huge number of friends here. It’s a combination of a lack fo effort and lack of circumstance. We both work from home. My office has a total of seven people and he works for himself. Having come from huge Wall Street firms, our current setup isn’t condusive to making work friends. We attempted to go to a few meetup events in the beginning but just got lazy.
This is why I had assumed that I wouldn’t have a baby shower. I figured I wouldn’t have anyone to invite. But four different people offered to throw us a shower and in the end we had fifteen people over on Saturday for the baby shower. It turns out we have more local friends than we thought. It’s amazing how little things make you realize the day to day things you take for granted.
Major thanks go to my friend Cynthia who really did 99.9% of the work. To Ashlie who surprised me and came all the way from St. Louis just for the shower. To Jess and Chris who, even though they didn’t actually get to make it since the weather was extremely uncooperative, had intended to drive all the way from San Fran for the day. And to Stacey who drove down from Palm Springs in torrential rain. And to everyone who came and intended to come.
It appears we, and our soon to be, are luckier than I ever imagined. We are surrounded by amazing people.
You’ll probably find that after you have your baby, you will gain new friends who also have kids, and lose touch with some of yours who don’t. It will really help to have the friends with kids. Try contacting the Parent Connectionn and looking up playgroups in your area… for the first year or so it only serves for getting mommies together, but later, your kids will have someone the same age to play with, and especially important, other couples you can swap babysitting with so that you can continue to be a couple.
I’m so happy for you! At least I don’t have to worry. I’m sure s/he now has at least one outfit. Cool~
dave,
i know i’ve been trying to look for places. i’m going to make a big effort to make sure our baby has friends early on.
Oh, my word! Where have I been? I had no idea you were pregnant. How wonderful. Take care. My best to the soon-to-be three of you.
Great shot, the colours are amazing!