We’re down to four weeks left. Fact is, only 5% of pregnant people actually deliver on their due date. So most people say that our potential delivery period is somewhere between two weeks from now to six weeks from now. Either way, it’s coming sooner than we can imagine. The most popular question I’ve been asked latety is: Aren’t you curious?
Don’t you want to know if it’s a girl or a boy?
Of course I’m curious. This baby has been growing in me for over 8 months now and I am curious about all of the details. Does s/he have long legs? Are all the organs in the right place? Everything ok with the limbs, the brain, the eyes? Will s/he have blue eyes like Jake? Will s/he have colic?
I am desperately curious to meet my baby. I pray that all is well and she or he will be born and live to be very healthy and happy long after I’m gone. I have a million worries and another million hopes. And in my list of ‘things I really hope for,’ gender isn’t number one. It isn’t even in the top ten.
When I seriously sit down and think about it, I’ve decided that I don’t have a significant preference of gender. I know some pretty awful women and some pretty awful men. What I care about much more is that our baby turns out to have a mild and pleasant personality. That she or he is a moderately easy baby and child. That we do right by him or her. Those are the things I care about. I’ve met enough atypical examples of each gender that I know having a girl doesn’t guarantee any information about the sort of girl we’ll end up with. And same goes for the boy. We already have too many assumptions on the toys our kids will like or the life they will lead depending on the gender they are and I want to make sure I don’t fall into the typical pitfalls.
So when I am honest with myself, it really doesn’t matter to me what gender the baby is. The main reason I am annoyed we don’t know is because, in English, I have to refer to the baby as ‘it’ since we can’t justifiably use he or she yet. Whereas, in Turkish, we don’t have gender-specific pronouns, making the ‘it’ equivalent not such a derogatory word to use. This is one of those cases where pronoun ambiguity would be in our favor.
So, any premonitions? Girl or boy? (Oh, and we’re 99.9% positive that there’s only one so don’t even go there!)
The heart rate indicates the gender of the baby. So I KNOW the gender but you’ll never hear it from me!
You guys will make great parents!
My wife has taken to calling ours “critter”. We’re also expecting in Feb., and don’t know the sex of the baby. My wife is way curious, but I insisted on not knowing.
we found out that we were having a girl. But that didn’t stop us from calling her something other than her name. we have and older son who is 2, Connor. and the baby, Naomi will be 4 weeks old on the 10 of January. we now call them Munchkin 1 and 2. 🙂
An exuberant shot!
and–girl.
I call babies its even after they’re out of the tummy.
I’m guessing girl.