Moments of Gratitude – 08

still managing to write daily, I am happy to get to do this.

Here’s week six, still able to keep up with daily gratitudes and my magic list on the weekends. 

a lot of david’s birthday here. there were so many photos i added an extra page.
love all the love around david’s birthday.
this page is him with his friends at his little party.
and more birthday photos as well as conference photos at school.

Here’s to Seeing more Magic in 2019.


Moments of Gratitude is a year-long project for 2019. You can read more about my projects for 2019 here.

Joy of Art – 07

joy can be found in tiny moments. pay attention.

These are small pieces I do at work or at home at night to help remind me why I love doing art. 


Joy of Art is a year-long project for 2019. You can read more about my projects for 2019 here.

Books I Read This Week 2019 – 08










An okay week of reading this week. Some great, some less great.  Here are my goodreads reviews. If you’re on goodreads, add me as a friend so I can see your books too! 


The Lost Man (4 stars):   Mystery doesn’t tend to be my favorite genre. Usually novels with a major mystery in their core tend to be very plot driven and don’t spend much time on character development, especially on side characters. I prefer stories with rich, deep character development. 

Over the years, I’ve found a handful of exceptions to this rule. Mystic River was one of the first books I read where the character development was deep and rich. I’ve read several other Dennis Lehane novels and he seems to be reasonably consistent with taking the time to develop his characters and such deepen his novels.

Jane Harper is the same way and then more. Her novels are full of rich, 3-dimensional characters, atmospheric plot that is almost another character itself, and beautiful dialogue. There is a mystery at the heart of each of her novels, too, but that’s just the icing on the cake instead of being the cake itself.

Harper’s novels are a joy to read. The audio is often hard for me to follow because the narrator is Australian but that makes it even more authentic, of course.

Looking forward to many more novels from this wonderful author.


The Silent Patient (3 stars):  This book was a super fast read. I know others got into it really quickly whereas I found myself being relatively apathetic the whole time until the twist came together. Having just finished Jane Harper’s new novel, I think I had even less patience for a novel like this than usual. 

If fast-paced, thrillers with a twist is your thing, you will enjoy this book. If you’re in a slump and can’t find a next novel to get you out of it, this might be a good one to go with. 


More than Words (3 stars):  If you’ve read The Light We Lost, you’re likely already familiar with Jill Santopolo’s novels. More than Words is in the same vein. 

It’s about people finding themselves, learning truths about the people they love, facing the truths about their own lives and triggered by events, choosing to finally step into the life they want to have. It’s not a badly written book, it’s just not a book I will remember for a long time. 

The characters are fine, just not deeply 3-dimensional. They won’t last with me. But I still enjoyed reading this little book.


The Fifteen Wonders of Daniel Green (4.5 stars):  What an absolute gem of a book. This story took me a while to get into, I kept reading a few pages at a time and not really connecting with it but I finally sat down today to give it a full hour and I was sucked right into the story.

This is one of my favorite kind of novels. There’s some plot but really what carries the novel is the rich, layered, 3-dimensional characters. The story is told in rotating chapters from three different characters’ points of view. And they all felt real, complicated, and wonderful to me.

There are so many sweet, quiet moments in this book. Moments of everyday life. Beautiful descriptions:

Nesssa was always like her father, all emotion and action bundled together by translucent skin. She’s a cluster of raw nerves shooting pain and joy alike straight to her heart, and it was my job to sheathe them all, to shield her.

It was long and wordy in places but by that time, I didn’t mind at all because I had grown to love these characters and wanted to spend as much time with them as possible. All the interesting crop circle plotline was icing on this beautiful cake.

Absolutely loved this one.

huge thanks to netgalley and the publisher for an advanced copy in return for an honest review.gratitudes to netgalley and the publisher for an early copy in exchange for an honest review.


The Plotters (3 stars):  This was an unusual novel. 

I have been exploring reading a wider variety of authors and I thought the plot of this Korean novel sounded really interesting so I was curious to read it.

While I didn’t really find myself getting into the story as much as I would have liked to, there were a handful of really interesting characters. One thing I’ve noticed is that this novel had a different rhythm. It was quieter, less explosive, especially for a novel about hired killers. It felt very matter of fact. Not too much dwelling on emotions/drama etc. 

I enjoyed reading it especially because it was different for me.


And there we go, not as many as usual but next week’s vacation so hopefully it will pick up. Here’s to a fantastic week.


Books I Read this Week 2019 is a year-long project for 2019. You can read more about my projects for 2019 here. I am also tracking my books in real time on Good Reads here. If you’re on Good Reads add me so I can follow you, too!

Stories from 2019 – 08

This story is just about our everyday and what I’m learning about our life.

Here are two more stories from my 2018 album. The content for these comes from the “learn” and “light” kits. 

This one is about learning to exercise and working to get stronger day by day.

Stories from 2019 is a year-long project for 2019. You can read more about my projects for 2019 here. Everything on the pages is from Ali’s Story Kits unless mentioned otherwise.

Everyday Magic – 08

Weekly Intention:  Yay for vacation week. We will be in and out of town this week. All of us hanging out together and enjoying each others’ company. I have some work I want to get done but I expect to be off most of the week. My intention is to go on adventures, to rest a lot, to do art, and to journal some, in that order. I want to see if I can use this week to ground myself a bit. Be super super super kind to my family, too.

This month’s intention is: Works like Magic:  This is your month to get things done. Step it up a notch at work. Step it up at home. Take the steps you’ve been meaning to take. Book those vacations, classes, etc, make plans. Ok so we did David’s birthdays! We also booked ski week trip. We have some plans/ideas for summer. On my plate still is: spring break, Nathaniel’s birthday trip, summer vacation, and the taxes. 

One way I will show up this week:  rest and relax. i will try super hard to be easygoing.

One magic I will make this week: go on adventures together.

This week, I will pay attention to: hugging my family more and being the kindest i can be.

This week, I will be kinder to: everyone!!

This week, I will focus on pleasing:hmm everyone and no one. just will take it easy.

One new thing I will learn this week: how i can be more easygoing 🙂

I am looking forward to:  vacation!

This week’s challenges: just a lot of driving and rain. but i am hoping we will be ok still.

Top Goals: 

  • Work: iterate on march and monthly and email 3 and then the three docs i want to work on.
  • Personal: keep up with journaling + art + yoga, pushups, and a hike.
  • Family:  have fun!! work with the kids, work on taxes but mostly have fun!

I will focus on my values:

  • Love:  love for my family and vacations.
  • Learn: what i’m craving
  • Peace: peace with perf.
  • Service:  to our vacation and to time off.
  • Gratitude: gratitude for some time off. 

This week, I want to remember:  that time passes so so fast. i told my mom last week that she was 42 when i moved to the united states and now i am 44. time flies. i want to make memories and stories and MAGIC.


Everyday Magic is a year-long project for 2019. You can read more about my projects for 2019 here.

Weekly Reflection 2019 – 07

Magic I Saw this Week: This wee was magic of seeing David and his friends celebrate his birthday. The magic of his STEM fair poster coming together and working side by side with him on his code. Magic of Nathaniel and doing math together. Magic of cuddling on the couch with Jake and watching Marvelous Ms. Meisel together. Magic of working from home especially when it rains. Magic of reading and flowers and yoga, always. 

Magic I Made this Week:  I worked from home on Wednesday this week when it was pouring rain and it was so much more calming. I also tried to come home early every day and was able to pull it off all days except one. I spent a lot of time helping David with his STEM project. A lot of time prepping for his birthday party. I booked our vacation. I did some art and some journaling and some yoga and a lot of reading.

Magic of Me that I explored Week: I talked to my manager a bit this week so that was good. I also tried to come up with a plan to shift my perspective.

Top Goals Review:  

  • Work: started plans for march, also did initial prep for monthly, i did my part for email 2.
  • Personal: i so so kept up with journaling + did some art + did daily yoga, only a few pushups, went to gym twice.
  • Family:  did a bunch of ML with david  and math with nathaniel. did not cook for Jake. did family photos and celebrations. david’s birthday was our adventure.

I celebrate: being done with david’s stem fair prep work.

I am grateful for: speaking up and for working from home on Wednesday. 

This week, I exercised: I’ve done yoga every morning and I also went to body pump once, and a full yoga class at work. Did not keep proper track of push ups this week :/

Self-care this week: Still journaling a bit, sleeping so-so, didn’t hike this week, and leaving work as early as possible to work from home as much as possible. Still need to work on nutrition. 

I showed up for:  David. 

I said yes to: buying the OLW journal which i wanted to do for weeks now.

I said no to:  going to work in pouring rain when i didn’t have to.

Core Desired Feelings Check-in:

  • Embrace: i am embracing how I feel. I still plan to go all out and really journal my heart out. :/
  • Alive: helping david while a lot of work is how i come alive.
  • Lighter: it feels so much lighter knowing i have vacation coming up.
  • Kinder:  i am trying hard to be kind. to myself, too.
  • Surrender: i have been reminding myself to surrender especially as i do yoga in the mornings.

What I tolerated this week: a lot of last minute work for David, a lot of rain. 

My mood this week was: a little numb i think.

I am proud of:  my husband. he injured his hand and can’t climb and he’s taking it all like a champ

I forgive myself for: still getting more excitable than i’d like at times.

Here’s what I learned this week: i am resilient. i am also appreciated.

What I love right now:  i love watching Ms. Meisel with Jake.


Weekly Reflection is a year-long project for 2019. You can read more about my projects for 2019 here.

Moments of Gratitude – 07

still managing to write daily, I am happy to get to do this.

Here’s week four, still able to keep up with daily gratitudes and my magic list on the weekends. 

lots of ordinary life shots here, my life is pretty small and repeated.
but i love it anyway. i love the outdoors time we take more than anything else.

Here’s to Seeing more Magic in 2019.


Moments of Gratitude is a year-long project for 2019. You can read more about my projects for 2019 here.

Joy of Art – 06

make time to savor all you love.

These are small pieces I do at work or at home at night to help remind me why I love doing art. 


Joy of Art is a year-long project for 2019. You can read more about my projects for 2019 here.

Books I Read This Week 2019 – 07










Another solid week of reading.  Here are my goodreads reviews. If you’re on goodreads, add me as a friend so I can see your books too! 


Recursion (4.5stars):  It’s always challenging to explain a Blake Crouch novel and this one is no exception. If you’ve read Dark Matter, you have some idea what you’re expecting in this book. His books are fast-paced, “keep you on your toes and wildly confuse yourself as you try to keep track of things that are happening” books. 

Recursion is about physics, the science of the human mind, memory generation, politics, and so much more. It’s also about grief, our desire to set things right, connection, greed, and so much more. And most of all, it has character development that’s rich which is rare in books with the kind of plot and pacing his books have. 

I’ve read a bunch on quantum physics and I studied a bunch of computer science and have even taken classes on the human brain but I can’t really tell you which of his ideas in the book are possible and which are pushed well outside the realm of possibility and which are just completely made up. Partly because they are a bit mixed up together but mostly because I don’t really care. If you’re a complete stickler for accurate science, this book might frustrate you, but if you take it for what it is, a fast-paced, very entertaining, though-provoking book that uses science as its story source, then you will enjoy it thoroughly and find that not only is your mind blown during reading it but that you think about it well after you’re done. And if that’s not the sign of a good book, I don’t know what is.

thanks to netgalley and the publisher for an advanced copy in exchange for an honest review.


Elsey Come Home (3.5 stars):  This quick little book started out not being able to hold my attention too much but by the time I was more than halfway through I was really invested in Elsey. There is so much suffering and so much realness and so much tenderness in this book. Marriage is hard. Being a human is hard. And while I don’t drink, I could still connect to her feeling of wanting to escape and her feelings around choosing between being a mother and being a thing you want to be (painter in this case) and being a wife. Her internal conflict is so real in this book and so easy to connect to that I couldn’t help but root for her. 

I’m glad I persevered with this one.


The Body is not an Apology (4 stars):  For the last few years, I’ve been on a journey towards trying to make peace with who I am both inside and out. As part of my word for 2019, I’ve decided to dive deeper into this journey and that means reading books that teach me to unlearn many of the messages I’ve been given (or I chose to distort) throughout my life. This spreads over many areas but none more than my body.

So even though I had not heard of Sonya Renee Taylor before picking up this novel, I knew it would be good for me. It would help change some of the messages in my head. 

And it was.

The messages I have in my head will not disappear with one good book. Years and years of conditioning and messaging doesn’t get erased in a few hundred pages. But like most journeys, it all begins with one step forward. And this was a solid step in the right direction.

I don’t think there is anyone who couldn’t benefit in some way or another from this book. It’s not about fixing your body issues, it’s not about fixing anything, in fact. It’s about learning to love yourself (I was going to write radically but that word doesn’t sit well with me and if you’re like me, I don’t want you to not read this book just because of that word.) There is so much goodness in this book. I had heard of the concept of how you’re not your thoughts from many many other books but this one brought it home for me. I get it so much more now.

If there’s an inkling of interest when you read the title of this book, then I’d say grab it, you will not be disappointed.


The Shape of a Life (4.5 stars):  I don’t usually read biographies, let alone biographies of mathematicians. But this particular book caught my attention with its description and it’s similar timeline to when my father-in-law got his PhD in Math (his PhD adviser is in fact one of the names mentioned) so, on a whim, I decided I would read it.

I am so glad I spent some time with this book. There were layers and layers of interesting stories and learnings for me. Even though there is a lot of math in the book, much of which I didn’t understand, I still deeply enjoyed reading Yau’s journey. I had never heard of this mathematician before and now I feel like I have had a window into math, or a type of math, at a certain time in history. Of course, this is all written from one person’s perspective, with one person’s biases but it was still interesting. 

In my experience, solving hard math problems takes hard work, and there’s no way around it, unless the problem is rather trivial.

I loved this because I think it encourages hard work and discourages the belief that we are born “geniuses” at math. 

Yau’s childhood and youth are a heart-wrenching read and very eye opening to me. It was incredible to see his success despite all of the hardships he (and his family) had to endure. 

There were so many opportunistic coincidences in Yau’s early life that culminated in his ability to end up in the United States (and his ability to study math vigorously) and it made me realize that we all have a lot of random coincidences in our lives and what might look like a disaster (not getting into the any schools for example) might turn out to be the thing that sets the course of your life positively (as it did for Yang.) and also that a single person can completely change the course of someone’s life. There are many who played a major role in getting Yau to where he could really thrive. Like Salaff who worked extraordinarily hard to get him into Berkeley.

“I have spent a whole day without eating and a whole night without sleeping in order to think, but it was of no use, I got nothing out of it. Thinking cannot compare with studying.”

It was quite depressing to me how incredibly political academia is. I knew this of course but as someone who has spent all her life in corporate America, with a brief stint in non profit land, it was depressing to see how academia can put all of the greed and political shenanigans to shame. All that bickering and blocking each other’s paths. What a waste of incredible mental talent. (I know there’s a lot of cooperation, too, which is also clear in the book.)

This was a really enjoyable read for me, despite (or maybe because of) being very different than my usual fare.

gratitudes to netgalley and the publisher for an early copy in exchange for an honest review.


Golden Child (3 stars):  This was a challenging book for me to read. I don’t want to write too much about it because it will be easy to give away the plot. But as a mother, it made me think a lot about sacrifices parents think they should make, how much parents alter the course of their kids lives, how words have power (and of course actions too.) and how some decisions are ones i will never agree with or understand. Maybe if I had read this book at another time, I might have been able to separate myself from the story enough to have some sort of literary criticism on this story. But I am not able to do that at the moment. Some books just come at the wrong time (for a reader) and this was one of those cases for me.


Lie With Me (4 stars): This quiet, small, and beautiful novel takes place over decades of two characters’ lives. The story is told from the perspective of one of them when they were teenagers and then again a few decades later and then again about ten years after that. This not a plot-rich story. It’s not about what happens but it’s about youth, identity, and love.

It’s about connection and how brief but powerful connections can (and do) have lasting impact on our lives. I originally wanted to read this book because I thought it might be like Call Me By Your Name which I loved. And parts of this story might have similarities to that story but to me the two felt very different. 

The prose in this novel is very sparse, very clean. It’s so stark that the emotions come to the surface that much more. I have never read Besson before and it sounds like he is a famous writer and this might be his style. At first, I found it jarring but, over time, I really appreciated the space it provided for me.

This is not a happy story. In fact, I would say it’s a really sad story but it’s not presented in a way that makes you feel the sadness on the surface like some melodramatic books do. It’s subtle and quiet and so the sadness I felt was deeper and quieter. 

Overall, it was a really beautiful story and I am excited to have discovered a new-to-me author. I am looking forward to reading more of his books.

Thank you to netgalley and the publisher for an advanced copy in return for an honest review.


Here and Now and Then (3 stars):  This book took me a while to get into. I listened to it on audio and decided that the narration wasn’t good. I also felt like I couldn’t get interested in any of the characters. There wasn’t enough character development or depth to make it so I cared about any of them. I felt like each character had 1-2 token things about them sprinkled in to make them “interesting” but there was no real depth. Which meant I didn’t end up caring about them enough. 

The plot is very unusual and maybe for a lot of people that’s enough but that usually isn’t enough for me and this book was no exception. By the end, I was a bit more interested and I am not sorry I read it but I feel there was more opportunity here for the author to develop the characters further and make this story deeper.


And there we go, a really solid week of reading. Here’s to another fantastic week.


Books I Read this Week 2019 is a year-long project for 2019. You can read more about my projects for 2019 here. I am also tracking my books in real time on Good Reads here. If you’re on Good Reads add me so I can follow you, too!

Stories from 2019 – 07

This story is about back to school night for my younger son who is in 4th grade. I always love capturing back to school nights because they are such a moment-in-time experience and will change so drastically over the years.

Here are two more stories from my 2018 album. The content for these comes from the “learn” kit. 

This one is about the climbing adventure we took for my husband’s birthday. He’s a huge rock climber so we all went outdoors and the kids and he climbed while I sat and watched them and took photos.

Stories from 2019 is a year-long project for 2019. You can read more about my projects for 2019 here. Everything on the pages is from Ali’s Story Kits unless mentioned otherwise.

Everyday Magic – 07

Weekly Intention:  This is a full week of work. My first in a while. And the kids’ too. They are off the following week and I will also try to take the time off so this week my intention is to close the loop on some of the things I have been dragging my feet on so we can be ready to go first thing when I get back. My intention this week is also to really take time to check in with myself, figure out my feelings (especially around work) and communicate with my manager (and myself.)

This month’s intention is: Works like Magic:  This is your month to get things done. Step it up a notch at work. Step it up at home. Take the steps you’ve been meaning to take. Book those vacations, classes, etc, make plans. I’ve made no progress on next week, spring break, Nathaniel’s birthday trip, summer vacation, or the taxes. But I’ve paid for 2019-2020 tuition and we’ve had David’s birthday so we’re doing things even if last minute. Maybe I can use a bit of my time off to move some of these forward.

One way I will show up this week:  i will be more centered and play more of a facilitator role, hold on to my opinions less firmly.

One magic I will make this week: planning our winter vacation might be magic.

This week, I will pay attention to: what i am feeling about work and how to communicate my needs better.

This week, I will be kinder to: myself. i need it.

This week, I will focus on pleasing: my manager by getting some things ready to go.

One new thing I will learn this week: let’s just focus on getting clear around my feelings this week.

I am looking forward to:  friday i guess since i will then have some time off.

This week’s challenges: tuesday is challenging with having to go to the kids’ school at night and then again wednesday morning.

Top Goals: 

  • Work: plans for march, prep for monthly, email 2.
  • Personal: keep up with journaling + art + yoga, pushups, gym.
  • Family:  david ML,  math with nathaniel. cook for Jake. family photos and celebrations. go on at least one adventure.

I will focus on my values:

  • Love:  love for my job maybe. find my path to it.
  • Learn: about what’s really getting to me.
  • Peace: peace with where i am now.
  • Service:  to my work for our todo list and then to my family for booking a hotel.
  • Gratitude: gratitude being able to pay one more year of tuition. 

This week, I want to remember:  that feeling my feelings is important. time with family is important. there will be time to read books in the future.


Everyday Magic is a year-long project for 2019. You can read more about my projects for 2019 here.

Weekly Reflection 2019 – 06

Magic I Saw this Week: I will say that I’ve been feeling off and frustrated and disgruntled. It’s hard for me to put my finger on why but I can tell the sentiment is there the whole time. So I am hoping to work on it soon by taking some time to fully journal and see if I can get some of the thoughts out of my head on to paper. Maybe that will help. In this state, I am not as open to seeing magic. But I was still able to see how I am helping some of my workmates tangibly. I saw the magic of David when he worked so hard on his ML and when we celebrated his 14th birthday. Magic of Nathaniel with his friends. Magic of Jake and his ability to forgive. Magic of spending time on my couch reading which is my favorite magic.

Magic I Made this Week:  I took Friday off to celebrate David’s 14th birthday. I emailed my mom, journaled, did my pushups, and yoga. I kept going even when it was really hard. I used my twinkly lights and my fire on youtube to help ground myself. I read a lot. I rested. I spent time with Nathaniel helping him with his homework and with David on his ML. We celebrated david and I made room for Jake to socialize and climb. I also did some lovely art.

Magic of Me that I explored Week: I spent time ruminating and wallowing which wasn’t great. But I also got my hair done and tried to be kind to myself.

Top Goals Review:  

  • Work: figured out a plan for release and reviews, prepped for monthly, and didn’t do japan yet.
  • Personal: kept up with journaling + did some art + daily yoga, daily pushups, went to gym twice.
  • Family:  celebrated david’s birthday,  did math with nathaniel. cooked for Jake. took family photos and did celebrations. went on a tiny adventure.

I celebrate: David turning 14! I can’t believe he’s 14!

I am grateful for: taking Friday off. and forgiveness.

This week, I exercised: I’ve done yoga every morning and I’ve also done 10 pushups a day minimum each day. I also went to body pump once, and a full yoga class at work. 

Self-care this week: Still journaling, sleeping so-so, hiking, and leaving work as early as possible to work from home as much as possible. Got my hair done. Still need to work on nutrition. 

I showed up for:  David and his birthday. We all took the day off. 

I said yes to: iterating on a graph a lot of times.

I said no to:  working on Friday.

Core Desired Feelings Check-in:

  • Embrace: i am embracing how I feel. I plan to go all out and really journal my heart out.
  • Alive: playing this awesome video game as a whole family was super awesome and made me come alive.
  • Lighter: it feels so much lighter when i work 4 days a week.
  • Kinder:  i really tried to be extra kind last monday. i’m a work in progress.
  • Surrender: i need to surrender to what is and i am really fighting it a lot.

What I tolerated this week: sadness, quiet, frustration, pain. 

My mood this week was: tired and sad and then happy.

I am proud of:  david. i am so so so proud of him and so thankful for our relationship.

I forgive myself for: everything this week. i will let it all go.

Here’s what I learned this week: i learned that i have to take time to slow down and that everything works out even if i have to do it last minute. i don’t have to stress.

What I love right now:  i love that i am making so much time to read.


Weekly Reflection is a year-long project for 2019. You can read more about my projects for 2019 here.