September felt like a stressful and challenging month for me. And yet, today, I was looking back at the goals I’d set for the month and I checked off more items this month than I had in a while.
Which was odd. It shows, yes again, that my perception isn’t reality.
And thanks to my friend Kelly, I now do seem to have a bit of a routine again.
Every Friday I am grateful for the week coming to an end and getting some downtime.
Now even more than before, I find that the line between work and life is blurred and things still feel like walking through mud too often. So when the week comes to an end, I welcome the rest.
Here’s something I realized today. Let’s say I get to have a cup of energy every day. It’s like a glass full of water and I get to sip it with each person, each meeting, each email or whatever. I get to decide who or what gets how much from the cup.
But here’s what I don’t get to decide: I don’t get to have endless cups or endless “water.” The cup is a specific size and it starts full most mornings and it doesn’t get a refill during the day. So it’s all I get to have.
If I use it up by 10am, that’s all there is and no one or nothing gets to have any when the cup is empty.
So, knowing that, it’s important for me to make sure that I am intentional in how I use my “water” for the day.
If I want to live inside out, honoring my values, well I’d better distribute the water so most of it goes towards the people and things that are aligned with my values.
If I care the full amount about everything ( which I, sadly, often do ) then I am living life as if there is a bottomless cup or infinite cups.
There isn’t.
So this is my lesson of the day.
This might already be obvious to others but it wasn’t to me. I know this to be true about time and I generally use my time very intentionally but until today I didn’t really consider this to be true about my energy and my worry. I am anxious about all the things and all the times, and, well that doesn’t work.
So now I will imagine a cup every morning and as I move through my day I will be careful about when and how I use up what’s in it.
I caught this on the way to dropping off my son this morning and I am sitting in the backyard right now as the sun sets. The days are getting shorter and winter is coming.
There’s not much on my mind tonight. I am thinking about next year a little and my goals but mostly I am just here tonight. Present and quiet and just being.
The last week has been full of anxiety for me I’ve still done all the things I usually do. Drive the kids to the bus, helped with homework, climbed, worked, etc. But underlying the whole week was this anxiety.
Just a reminder that we never know what’s going on with people. So it’s best to always be kind.
When the kids were young, I used to tickle them during family photos to get some genuine laughs.
As they got bigger and stronger, they got better at stopping me so I had to devise a better strategy to ensure we didn’t end up with a bunch of fake smiles.
We start our sessions with smiles, and then do a bunch of faces (sad face, angry face, shocked face, etc.) And then we start to fake laugh. I told the kids that the camera can’t tell when you’re fake laughing so we fake it.
And the camera can’t tell.
But here’s the best part: a few seconds into the fake laughing we start laughing for real. We can’t help it. The whole thing feels so absurd that we start laughing and laughing and laughing.
And the camera captures those too.
Sometimes faking it till you make it is the best strategy after all.
Played with lots of paint today while I listened to a good book. Painting, journaling, reading. These things never get old for me.
I am so grateful to the people who fill our lives with stories to read, stories to watch, they create worlds we can live in however briefly and let us peek into other worlds.
The weekend is here and all I want to do is rest and hug my people. This little boy is always there for it. He’s kind and generous and so very loving. I am grateful every single day for him.
I’m grateful for my friend Evelyn who came over today.
I’m grateful that my older boy spent time hanging out with his friends after school today.
I’m grateful that my husband is spending time with his brother tonight.
There are 100 days left in 2021. Depending on who you are and how you filter life, this might feel exciting that we still get 100 more days or alarming that we only have 100 left.
I’m in neither camp today. These days I am leaning into “it is what it is” attitude and trying not make a bigger meaning around things.
I’ve been really tired lately and have a lot of headaches so I’ve been giving myself grace with what I can get done. Some things are behind and others are doing ok. I’m regressing and I am progressing and I am also standing still in some areas.